Is it easier to get through something negative when you know what the end date is or when you don’t know? I thought for sure it was easier when you know the end date, but I’m starting to wonder…
When you know the end date, I think you can see the light at the end of the tunnel and maybe feel more hopeful. The situation might be miserable, but you know when it will be over and can look forward to that time.
When you don’t know the end date, I think the potential to feel hopeless is greater because the situation could feel never-ending. However, what came to me is that maybe survival-mode kicks in and you start to unconsciously believe that it’s not as bad as you previously thought. Like cognitive dissonance. At least, I think that’s what would be a healthy reaction. If you think the situation you’re in could be long-term or unavoidable, you might find reasons to be okay with it or at least tolerate it in order to cope.
I guess this depends on the situation too. In my case, I’m relating it to having a job that I dread going to every day. I know that I need to stick it out and should focus on the relief I feel knowing that it’s only temporary, but at times it seems even harder to stay focused because I’ve had to care less and less to keep my stress level down. And with this job, it’s a challenge! I tend to be an anxious person, if I haven’t mentioned that previously, and that can be a good thing or a bad thing. On the good end, it is a motivating factor that pushes me farther, and on the bad end, it’s debilitating and prevents me from enjoying the present moment at all. The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle! But really.
I’ve been told to see the job situation as a means to an end, and I’m relieved that I have a bright, exciting light at the end of the tunnel. I’d also like to be able to enjoy the ride there and not feel like I need to live in the future to get through though!
Just pondering this silliness, don’t mind me.